To grow is to change.
To change is to step out of your comfort zone, to dare to be different, to explore and stretch.
To be outside your comfort zone is uncomfortable by its very nature.
When we are uncomfortable we seek a return to comfort to protect our wellbeing but in order to grow and adapt we need to stick with the discomfort long enough to learn the lessons held there
To stick with the discomfort requires resilience, support, a strong sense of purpose to the discomfort, a valued goal to be attained by doing it.
Being compassionate towards ourselves helps us handle the discomfort.
Positive self-talk – “It will get better, easier, faster, I will learn to master this thing. I am on a journey and I’m still finding my way.” provides reassurance.
To forgive ourselves for the stumbles and mistakes, to even expect them and see them all as stepping stones on our journey to learning and growth can give us the permission to be less than perfect as we work through the discomfort to find new skills and strengths.
To appreciate our own effort, look at the progress we’ve made, to capture the lessons we’ve learned along the way reinforces our resolve to continue.
The more we notice the results of our efforts paying off the more confidence we gain.
The more confident we become the more comfortable we get with the new way of being until finally, we’ve expanded our comfort zone to include this new thing.
When our comfort zone has grown, we have grown.
Trust the process.
Trust yourself.
Keep doing the work that will move you forward to who you want to be.
Need some help learning that self-compassion?
We can all use a helping hand now and then. Coaching is great for helping you shape the changes you want in your life and supporting you along your journey. Being a support when you doubt yourself, a chearleader to give you courage, and an accountability partner to keep you on track with your plans.
If you want help, get in touch, and let’s explore working together
As a personal effectiveness coach, I work with many people experiencing the same challenges as above. It’s amazing the difference having a strong support relationship has in achieving the changes they want. You can do it too.
